Your Treatment Plan for Narc Abuse
If you’ve found yourself constantly walking on eggshells, second-guessing your reality, or wondering “Am I the problem?”—you’re not alone. Many of my clients come to therapy feeling emotionally drained, deeply confused, and unsure how to move forward after experiencing narcissistic or borderline abuse in a relationship.
These relationships—whether with a parent, partner, or family member—can leave invisible wounds that impact your identity, your confidence, and your ability to trust yourself.
The good news? There’s a clear path forward.
🚫 A Quick but Important Caveat
I do not diagnose your partner or family member with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) or Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). Diagnosing someone requires a clinical relationship with that person.
What I do is help you understand harmful patterns of behavior that resemble narcissistic or borderline abuse—and support you in reclaiming your emotional clarity, boundaries, and sense of Self.
🌱 The Treatment Roadmap: How We Heal Together
Healing from narcissistic and borderline abuse takes time—but it doesn’t have to be confusing. Below is a clear, three-phase roadmap I use with clients. It blends Internal Family Systems (IFS), nervous system regulation, and evidence-based boundary techniques to help you feel safe, strong, and free again.
Phase 1: Stabilize & Validate (1–5 sessions)
We begin by slowing down and creating a space where your system can feel safe again. This phase includes:
Validating your experience without judgment, while helping you identify patterns of narcissistic and borderline abuse.
Identifying the parts of you that are exhausted, angry, afraid, or ashamed. Before treatment, these emotions can feel overwhelming. You’ll learn how to honor these parts while creating a calm and respectful space for them to be heard.
Creating and maintaining protective boundaries, using:
Grey rocking
The Broken Record technique – calmly repeating your limit without engaging
“Let me get back to you” delays – giving your system time to respond rather than react
Radical acceptance – letting go of the fantasy that they’ll change
Low/no contact strategies, when necessary
Practicing nervous system regulation skills, using Internal Family Systems (IFS) and other leading somatic tools.
🧠 IFS Insight: You are not broken—you have protective parts who are doing their best to help you survive. In therapy, we welcome them with compassion.
Phase 2: Untangle & Reclaim (6–12 sessions)
This is where the deeper healing work begins. In this phase, we focus on:
Reclaiming your Self-leadership—the calm, courageous, compassionate part of you that can face hard truths while staying grounded.
Mapping internal patterns, like your inner critic, people-pleaser, or protector—and learning to unblend from them so you can make decisions clearly.
Appreciating your protectors. These protective parts of your personality have helped you survive. In therapy, we build a respectful relationship with them so they can feel appreciated and understood.
Providing comfort and healing to parts of you that feel scared, betrayed, or deeply hurt using IFS techniques.
Continuing to build real-time responses to emotional manipulation, while maintaining safety around NPD/BPD behavior.
💬 You’ll practice setting boundaries without guilt, saying “no” with clarity, and trusting your internal compass again.
Phase 3: Rewrite & Rebuild (13–18+ sessions)
This final phase adapts to your context and long-term goals. Our work focuses on:
Repairing your relationship with your body, instincts, and voice—tending to your nervous system and building life-giving habits.
Choosing relationships based on mutual respect—not fear, fantasy, or trauma bonds.
Creating and maintaining boundaries based on someone’s current behavior, not who they “used to be” or “could become.”
Releasing burdens like shame, self-blame, people-pleasing, and self-hatred—so you can live more freely and fully.
🎯 You’ll feel more steady, more self-led, and more capable of choosing your life instead of reacting to it.
⏳ So… How Long Will This Take?
Every healing journey is unique.
Most clients who engage in therapy for 3–6 months experience real relief, better boundaries, and more clarity.
Some choose to continue for 9–12 months or longer, especially if they’ve endured years of emotional abuse.
We move at the pace your system can handle—with respect, not pressure.
Healing doesn’t happen overnight, but it happens faster when you don’t do it alone.
🧭 You Deserve a Healing Map
You don’t need more confusion.
You don’t need another person telling you what’s wrong with you.
You need a therapist who believes you, understands these dynamics deeply, and can help you reconnect with the powerful, clear, loving parts of yourself that got buried along the way.
If you’re ready to take the next step, let’s talk.
Together, we can rebuild something beautiful—starting with you.
